Are you living your own life or somebody else's?... and a great gymnast cake

A bit of a serious one this month, and apologies it has been over a month since I last posted, but there are only so many children's birthday parties you can write about, and that has taken up so much of my time (fun but not to read). 

So I was thinking about what to write about, and having had my "happy" head on for the past 100 days, I looked around me at those who might not be so optimistic and I looked into their lives and how they conduct themselves and most of the time, when I see people who aren't happy with themselves, its easy to see why. They are living their lives as to how other people want them to be.

When you grow up, you are very much governed by your parents. They are the people who will (most of the time) guide you and influence your way of thinking, but when you grow up, there has to be a time when you can think for yourself, and at the risk of upsetting your parents (albeit usually only temporary), you need to take that step, think about your action and decide how much will you upset your parents compared to how much can you improve your own wellbeing. They will get over it, surely they want the best for their children, even if thats when you're in your 30's and 40's. Be brave, explain why you're doing it and remember, they're getting old and grumpy and you're still young and fun!

And partners! Wives, husbands, boyfriends and girlfriends! Why do we choose each other? Most of the time its because we fall in love, find our soul mates, fancy the pants off each other etc. so why should that change once we're all settled together? Why are so many partners scared of their other halves? Why should we tread on eggshells around each other? We live in the twenteens, where we are all equal and have the right and means to say and do what we want. If you partner doesn't support you, tell them that you want them to! Tell them that your partnership asks for support and they ought to have a damn good reason to oppose your exciting plans. And on the flipside of that, think about what you say before you put down your partner and mock their decisions. Just because you are partners, doesn't mean you lose feeling! You know that as well as they do!

And work. So we've been through some tough times in the economy but things are getting better and jobs are materialising. So if you hate your job, why stick at it? Yes, you need the money thats obvious, you've got a house to run and a family to feed, but why sit at a desk where you get bullied every day? Why do you put up with it? If your partner/children were doing the same, you would (hopefully) go mental at them and tell them to start looking for a new job straight away. Why do you have to stay in the same industry your whole life? Retrain and do something you actually like doing. There is something out there for everyone, but you have to look for it, and want it, and then GO FOR IT!

It's not rocket science (unless that's what you want to train in) but its thinking about yourself, and realising that actually if you make yourself happy, those around you will be happy (it's infectious), you will thrive in your life and encourage others to do the same. 

If you're not happy SPEAK OUT, what's to be afraid of? Give it a go and see how it pan's out.

And in the meantime, check out my gymnastic cake I made last week. Remember, cakes are made to order.... ;)